Category: Knowledge

Chase Your Dreams, It’s Good For You

Every kid around the age of 7-9 (usually) begins to realize that they love something. I’m talking about love something to the point that they will give anything to do that once thing. In society, we call this passion. So whether a kid loves legos and grows up to start his own roofing company, fixes houses, and builds creative things with his hands, or is fascinated with drawing images and grows up to be a fashion designer or a building architect for that matter, we all have something inside of us that steers us in a certain direction.

Would you agree with this?

I’ve always believed that we are born with God-gifted talent. A talent so strong that if you stay true to yourself, you unlock your full potential.

The problem is that a lot of people don’t give themselves a chance to reach their unique pinnacle. They let society determine who they become. Whether it be their parents, teachers, friends, spouses, they always have someone in their ear telling them why they shouldn’t do something.

Well, I’m here to tell you that your inner voice is disproportionately more important than others opinions. And if you don’t start believing this now, you too may fall into the mousetrap of the rat race.

You see, if the Malarkey family never chased their dreams, they would have never built a roofing company empire. They would have never sold roofing product, or fixed a single roof.

The same thing is true with star athletes. Take Michael Jordan for example. He got cut from his junior varsity team in high school! If he would have listened to his coaches saying he wasn’t good enough, fast enough, strong enough, skilled enough, etc. he would not being the greatest of all time to this day! If that doesn’t put things into perspective for you then let’s take a deeper dive.

I always like to start my day asking myself one really strong question. For instance, “What’s your why?” is a great one. It really gets your juices flowing. And it makes your think about things that truly matter: what you want to accomplish for the day; some things you want to improve on; key lessons that you would like to learn; near and dear people that you want to contact; the list goes on.

If you don’t know your goal you’ll never hit it. If you don’t shoot the shot you’ll never make it. If you don’t swing the bat you’ll never hit a homerun. If you don’t engage in continued learning you’ll never grow. Do you see where I’m going with this? It’s a cause and effect relationship. One thing can’t happen without the other. To make things happen, sometimes you have to will yourself. Where there’s a will there’s a way, as the old saying goes.

So, at the very least I hope this article gave you some inspiration to go out in the world and shatter all expectations people have of you. It is possible. It just takes some hard, smart work, a dash of persistence, and writing your goals down.

Ego is the Enemy: In Business, Life, Relationships, and Then Some

I once heard from a guy by the name of Derek Sivers that you can have “anything you want”. He even wrote a book titled Anything You Want.

egoBut, he didn’t recommend that I read his book.

Instead he told me to read a book by Ryan Holiday – Ego Is The Enemy.

Considering that my mother would always preach about dropping my ego, it kind of piqued my interest. I understood this whole ego thing on a surface level. But I knew it could be beneficial to dive a little deeper.

So what is ego? The book defines ego as an unhealthy belief in your own importance.

Ego is the enemy of the following: what you want and of what you have; mastering a craft; real creative insight; working well with others; building loyalty and support; longevity; repeating and retaining your success.

How profound. To me this says that self-awareness is paramount. That there is nothing more important than the ability to evaluate one’s self.

I guess this makes sense, right? Without being able to identify yourself from a distance, and get out of your own brain, improvement seems like a real challenge, or maybe even impossible.

Think about the paradigm of the teacher-student relationship. The magic of being a student is not just that it is an elongated occurrence of instruction. It also places the ego and ambition in another persons grasp. There is a a glass ceiling truncating the ego – one knows that he does not possess a higher status than the “master” he apprentices under.

But this isn’t to be said in a negative theme. It’s actually necessary in several instances; you can’t learn if you think you already know.

Pretty simple right? I thought so too. As I continued to thumb through more pages, I really felt the material begin to solidify…

Denial is your ego refusing to believe that what you don’t like and could be factual.

Ego asks: Why in the world is this happening to me? How do I save face and prove to everyone I’m as high and mighty as they think? It’s the innate fear of even the most trivial sign of weakness.

The key thing to realize here is that any fool can learn from experience. The trick is to learn from other people’s experience.

This will put you miles ahead of everyone else. You’ll be playing chess, and your peers will be stuck on a checkers board.

Well, hope that book summary helps a little. You can apply it to your place of business, managing relationships with your friends and family, or however you please. If you have any questions or comments, please reach out to me on my contact page. Look forward to my next post!